4N Cattleya seedlings or plants, with which I am the most familiar, are indeed slower growers, I agree that they often show thicker leaves, rounder leaves and they typically produce flowers with heavier substance. The color of the flowers is often deeper, richer. As seedlings, they often show several new leads at once rather then just one or two.
They could be larger but that is often controlled a bit by culture. If you grow a 4N Cattleya poorly, something tells me that the flowers are not automatically larger.
I agree, unless you run a dna test, how could you possibly know for sure. But like I said, you have to grow them well.